mrscott @ Wed Sep 15, 2010 9:40 am wrote:
But if they are mature enough, they will know what you are saying is positive to them.
And this is what I fear, That perhaps he's NOT mature enough to handle the truth and may take it to heart and as an insult.
As an addition, he actually phone my house night before last on the pretext that he had heard there was going to be a "dance" at one of the venues I work. It happens to have the same name as the high school, so I suggested to him that that is probably where the "dance" was.
He then continued on to chit chat, but didn't have much of anything of any consequence to say. I suspect he was maybe trying to further our "friendship", but I'm not comfortable with that. For those that will say he's looking to me for a girlfriend, I will say that he's definitely not, and he also knows I'm in a committed relationship. Nor would I be interested in a man that could easily be my father. I've been very clear about my "marital status" with everyone. It's certainly no secret. His friend (he was actually his foster son many years ago) that he comes out with, however, does have a crush on me, of which I'm well aware and do my best to discourage without being rude or nasty or hurtful. I try my best to ignore it and treat him like anyone else. He (the foster son/friend) has not been forward with it and has said nothing. I just hope he gets over it soon.
I do worry that maybe the older man is perhaps trying to further the friendship for the benefit of his foster son/friend? I really don't know. It's really just speculation on my part, but I will say that I am definitely not interested. Very few people are invited further into my life and I'm very choosy about those that are.
Not that they are bad people, but given the circumstances.....
You must be pretty hot Diafel! Gotta watch those old guys now! This sounds exactly like what my ex-kj friend would be saying about me right now......'cept I was going for older?
It's crazy in those bar venues. I don't know how y'all keep it going? Must be a better way to earn a living. Unless you like all the emotional excitement?